How does one pledge to keep dating after having been married for almost a decade. couple of kids, demanding jobs, traffic and frankly not too many entertainment options in this Lagos??
It is hard o! My husband and I recently decided to try and have some type of date every week to try and keep things interesting. Apart from watching movies or spending loads of money eating out there isn't much to do for fun. Imagine if there was a Nigerian version of ticketmaster.com? where you could actually find out about concerts and plays?
Most of my other married friends with kids just smile and nod and say you don't have problems when I tell them about my husbands' and I's challenges finding fun things to do on our weekly dates.
So what happens that we stop dating? Is it just too much effort? costs too much money?we cant be bothered? Shebi it was dating that got you to know each other in the first place to want to get married? To be honest for some of us our kids are free comedy :)
After watching soo many movies and eating way too much sugar popcorn its time to find something else to do for fun.
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Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Time For Everything
Where does the time go....
Two kids later and I want to find every parent I ever judged their parenting skills/method and apologize to them for ever trying to imagine I could do the parenting thing much better.
You know what I mean..You know those kids you see throwing tantrums in the stores and you cut your eyes sideways at the parents and think to yourself...They need to be firmer with thier kids! or my kids would never try that with me??
Or you know that mother you know who never seems to have time for herself and you think gosh when I become a mother I will make sure I balance it better and be sure to have me time to take care of myself..Please which mother thinks there is enough time for having your hair neat, manicure and pedicure always fresh? Makeup always flawless......
Bottom line is that parenting is one of the most all encompassing roles you could ever have. So I constantly compare notes with my friends in the Western World who don't have access to domestic help and though yes they are more frazzled, parenting in Lagos isn't a walk in the park either. Domestic staff though easily accessible here are SERIOUSLY lacking in quality..Very few people here with multiple nannies can truly be comfortable with the staff they have at home taking care of their kids. Multiple stories abound with nanny's who do things from petty crimes to the more heavy duty crimes (God forbid we encounter these)
I think I am just getting to the point where I am able to carve out time for all the things I want to try and be - Mother, Wife, Sister, Daughter, Friend, Employer, Employee, House Manager..... while trying to look stylish in Lagos that is a discussion for another day!
Two kids later and I want to find every parent I ever judged their parenting skills/method and apologize to them for ever trying to imagine I could do the parenting thing much better.
You know what I mean..You know those kids you see throwing tantrums in the stores and you cut your eyes sideways at the parents and think to yourself...They need to be firmer with thier kids! or my kids would never try that with me??
Or you know that mother you know who never seems to have time for herself and you think gosh when I become a mother I will make sure I balance it better and be sure to have me time to take care of myself..Please which mother thinks there is enough time for having your hair neat, manicure and pedicure always fresh? Makeup always flawless......
Bottom line is that parenting is one of the most all encompassing roles you could ever have. So I constantly compare notes with my friends in the Western World who don't have access to domestic help and though yes they are more frazzled, parenting in Lagos isn't a walk in the park either. Domestic staff though easily accessible here are SERIOUSLY lacking in quality..Very few people here with multiple nannies can truly be comfortable with the staff they have at home taking care of their kids. Multiple stories abound with nanny's who do things from petty crimes to the more heavy duty crimes (God forbid we encounter these)
I think I am just getting to the point where I am able to carve out time for all the things I want to try and be - Mother, Wife, Sister, Daughter, Friend, Employer, Employee, House Manager..... while trying to look stylish in Lagos that is a discussion for another day!
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