I was responding to an earlier comment on my very first post on this blog and thought I would just make it its own entry.
At the time I started this blog, I was at the lowest (at least I pray it is indeed the lowest) point in my marriage of 2 years. I needed somewhere to vent and just put my thots somewhat anonymously. I am happier today Thank God and just wanted to share something I have come to realize which I wrote in the form of a reply to a comment to another reader....
You know XBloggerX, I was just going through my old posts and realised how discouraged I was feeling at the time I started this blog. I am happy to say now I have realized one of the roads to stay sane is to stick to your guns. "what you wont take tomorrow, don't start taking today". I think basically in-laws are bullies and once you call their bluff (which can indeed be hell initially) they do back off and go and look for the next victim.
I have at least for me realized that when their focus has moved away from you and your husband you can at least focus on yourselves and be happier. Amen!
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Monday, June 25, 2007
Emotion-s
Didn't know the emotional ups and downs pregnant women went through were for real until recently. I mean I have gone more than half of the pregnancy with no drama really - infact I have been pretty easy going and laid back. Some even say I have gotten much nicer depending on who you ask!
Last week I had a total meltdown that left both my DH and myself shocked. I am not an overly emotional person nor am I a cry-er by any means but gosh did these two well hidden sides of me kick in this past week or what?? As I was dramatizing (if this is a word) I was asking myself at the back of my mind who is this person? Why am I soo upset and what is going on? I find crying quite unecesary since it doesnt solve anything (at least in my view). The thing that even upset me was not that big a deal come to think of it. But once the emotional door opened and I realized the "tantrum"was going to play itself out since I couldn't seem to stop myself from crying...I just gave in to ride and felt so much better afterwards!
On another unrelated note I heard an interesting and I thought somewhat profound statement that should be shared with men/boys. It goes "Men will loose money chasing women but men will not be able to loose women chasing men with money" or something along those lines....Hmm.
Last week I had a total meltdown that left both my DH and myself shocked. I am not an overly emotional person nor am I a cry-er by any means but gosh did these two well hidden sides of me kick in this past week or what?? As I was dramatizing (if this is a word) I was asking myself at the back of my mind who is this person? Why am I soo upset and what is going on? I find crying quite unecesary since it doesnt solve anything (at least in my view). The thing that even upset me was not that big a deal come to think of it. But once the emotional door opened and I realized the "tantrum"was going to play itself out since I couldn't seem to stop myself from crying...I just gave in to ride and felt so much better afterwards!
On another unrelated note I heard an interesting and I thought somewhat profound statement that should be shared with men/boys. It goes "Men will loose money chasing women but men will not be able to loose women chasing men with money" or something along those lines....Hmm.
Monday, June 04, 2007
Trimester Bus
Time is truly flying by..I remember when I was watching the calendar and counting the weeks and celebrating when I had passed the first 12 weeks and so had sailed through the first trimester.
and now here I am almost double that time.
I feel good and and its getting more and more real with each passing week.
I wonder how my life and HB's (hubby) life will change after the baby gets here.
Haven't had much complaints except for feeling quite sleepy and some serious back pain. I still haven't started any physical activity o!
Feel like I am watching my life progress like a movie, this is me married, not necessarily a newly married woman anymore (depending on who you ask), working, getting ready for a baby, running a house etc. It can get soo overwhelming and unbelievable sometimes when I remember a time that my biggest problem was hoping that I get into the secondary school of my choice.
Life really does move along quickly!
and now here I am almost double that time.
I feel good and and its getting more and more real with each passing week.
I wonder how my life and HB's (hubby) life will change after the baby gets here.
Haven't had much complaints except for feeling quite sleepy and some serious back pain. I still haven't started any physical activity o!
Feel like I am watching my life progress like a movie, this is me married, not necessarily a newly married woman anymore (depending on who you ask), working, getting ready for a baby, running a house etc. It can get soo overwhelming and unbelievable sometimes when I remember a time that my biggest problem was hoping that I get into the secondary school of my choice.
Life really does move along quickly!
Thursday, May 17, 2007
Random thots
I really want to start working out because I dont want to get too big and then have trobule getting back to my pre-pregnancy size post delivery. But at the same time since I have not been the most physically active person before the baby I am not sure it is safe.
Or am i being too "vain" and should just wait to see what happens after I have him/her and then face getting the weight off. I guess I'll ask my doctor and see what DR. advices.
I would to love to start shopping for the baby, it is when it comes to shopping that I realize how easy it must be living abroad. I could at least then just run into ANY mall and be able to get things at affordable prices. Here in Lagos everything is like *5 the prices you would get them abroad - specifically the US. I mean do they have to price it up by that much to make a profit? Some of these prices are just pure robbery!
Does anyone know good sources for baby things here in Lagos that wont break my back account? Would be nice to start the registering for things online here in Lagos so people can buy you excatly what you need.
Or am i being too "vain" and should just wait to see what happens after I have him/her and then face getting the weight off. I guess I'll ask my doctor and see what DR. advices.
I would to love to start shopping for the baby, it is when it comes to shopping that I realize how easy it must be living abroad. I could at least then just run into ANY mall and be able to get things at affordable prices. Here in Lagos everything is like *5 the prices you would get them abroad - specifically the US. I mean do they have to price it up by that much to make a profit? Some of these prices are just pure robbery!
Does anyone know good sources for baby things here in Lagos that wont break my back account? Would be nice to start the registering for things online here in Lagos so people can buy you excatly what you need.
Tuesday, April 24, 2007
Update - Great NEWS
It is truly wonderful to be able to Thank God for giving me the gift of impending motherhood.
My prayers have been answered and I am expecting our first child, I just found out and it is truly a marvelous feeling to know I am about to bring a child into the world by the Grace of God.
I will say it has helped to bring myself and my husband closer and the post I had earlier where I mentioned that it might be easier to take crap if I know that I am bringing a child into the world has not been necessary...to be honest and fair. He has been the most supportive and helpful partner I could have asked for. I can almost (yes i said almost) forget all the drama we went through during the early days of our marriage.
He is ever willing to help me with my needs, keep me comfortable and generally treats me like an egg. It only just reinforces to me that I am thankful we did not let interfering family members tear us apart because at the core of it we are each others best friends and look out for each other.
His parents are very happy about the news and are always asking after my welfare. Its funny but even with everything that had happened I never for once thought about keeping the news away from his parents (as some people suggested). I pray a lot more now and know that God is in control and no evil thoughts or deeds can harm either me or my unborn bundle of joy.
Other mothers to be out there??
My prayers have been answered and I am expecting our first child, I just found out and it is truly a marvelous feeling to know I am about to bring a child into the world by the Grace of God.
I will say it has helped to bring myself and my husband closer and the post I had earlier where I mentioned that it might be easier to take crap if I know that I am bringing a child into the world has not been necessary...to be honest and fair. He has been the most supportive and helpful partner I could have asked for. I can almost (yes i said almost) forget all the drama we went through during the early days of our marriage.
He is ever willing to help me with my needs, keep me comfortable and generally treats me like an egg. It only just reinforces to me that I am thankful we did not let interfering family members tear us apart because at the core of it we are each others best friends and look out for each other.
His parents are very happy about the news and are always asking after my welfare. Its funny but even with everything that had happened I never for once thought about keeping the news away from his parents (as some people suggested). I pray a lot more now and know that God is in control and no evil thoughts or deeds can harm either me or my unborn bundle of joy.
Other mothers to be out there??
Monday, January 15, 2007
New Year
Its a New Year! Thank God for seeing a new year - 2007!
Wow another year makes you realize how quickly time flies.
Basically happy for God's mercies for myself and my family seeing this new year, praying for continued health, happiness, peace, and all.
But I found myself most especially praying for peace in my marriage!
But am so proud of myself because I have really matured as a wife.
Knowing how to get my message over to the Mr without always having to resort to an argument. Managing relationships with the in-laws much better. Looking forward to a New Year for more chances and hope with my Mr. where we can actually plan and move forward as a family...
The drama is definitely gone with 2006! Amen
Wow another year makes you realize how quickly time flies.
Basically happy for God's mercies for myself and my family seeing this new year, praying for continued health, happiness, peace, and all.
But I found myself most especially praying for peace in my marriage!
But am so proud of myself because I have really matured as a wife.
Knowing how to get my message over to the Mr without always having to resort to an argument. Managing relationships with the in-laws much better. Looking forward to a New Year for more chances and hope with my Mr. where we can actually plan and move forward as a family...
The drama is definitely gone with 2006! Amen
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